Heeeeeey y'all, today we start with some awesome reggae love this song by Chronixx- I can.
Everyday is a blessing, be thankful even if you feel uncertain about some situations. JUST BE THANKFUL
Life tend to happen a lot sometimes I get super overwhelmed so I don't blog a lot, but once in a while I try to cook up something, like today 😊😊😉. Yesterday I was gisting with my mum and she started telling me the importance of not burning bridges that we may need to cross one time. She goes by mentioning the importance of forgiveness and how letting go of hate after betrayal. My grandma( I like talking about her a lot) she is a solid example of people who don't burn bridges.
What do you think, is it okay to burn bridges or leave it there without tampering with it?
I say, it's a small world, don't burn bridges. Because we live in such a small world, it is critically important not to burn bridges - no matter how tempted you might be! You aren’t going to like everyone and everyone isn’t going to like you, but there’s no need to make enemies. Generally I do think it’s better to stay above the fray and not burn a bridge. However, this doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot of cycles trying to keep a bridge from burning … especially when someone else lit the fire. ( Someone will say am contradicting myself )
My crazy girlfriend whom I adore will probably say..." You don't always need to be the bigger person always, watch me burn those bridges and play with the fire." Like I always say, it's always about choices, if you feel like burning bridges is okay with you, go ahead burn them. I'd choose not to burn mine and I have my reasons. Also, I’m not suggesting this applies only for business dealings or just to personal interactions. Burning a bridge is burning a bridge.
After numerous conversations with family, friends, colleagues and many more have led me to believe that we are disturbed less by foes and more by friends, simply because emotionally, we invest more in our friends. It sometimes takes years to realize that we have drifted very far caring for someone, so much so that our life needs some serious re-centering.
They don’t realize that they have lost you until you walk out neat and straight. The more we try to bend backwards and maintain decorum the more we exchange pleasantries and try to keep a working relationship alive the more it robs us of our tranquility our self-esteem; and the less it communicates the sense of being wronged that we harbor. So the remedy is pretty straight forward. Walk away from anything or anyone that has the potential to disturb your inner harmony.
There are some people that burn bridges all the time and probably don’t even notice. Hopefully this doesn’t describe you. If it does take steps today to start making a change. If you are noticing then you are likely bothered by it … otherwise you wouldn’t notice. Again, as mentioned above take a step back and look at the big picture and see if you can make adjustments to the way the situation arises and how it progresses and most important how it ends. Walk away to know that you can do very well without them. Walk away to realize that sometimes the very people you think you love are impediments in your own happiness and contentment, maybe your growth too without any of this being intentional. Because the more you give, the more they feel entitled … the more you give the more you expect. And that expectation, fair in some sense (because you think you gave first) and unfair in some others (since they never asked for it) is the root cause of dismay, somewhere at the back of your mind.
There is another old saying … There are Three Sides to Every Story — Yours, Mine and The Truth.
Facts have a habit of making themselves known … eventually. It’s much better just to stick with the facts and let the hyperbole be spun by others. It is hard to acknowledge but breaking this vicious circle is the only way forward. And let the cut down be deep and surgical. So no more polite good mornings… no longer Happy New Year or Happy Birthday… Let the statement be unambiguous and clear.
If there is any soul in your equation, your silence will be understood. Your pain, your inability to take it forward, and the piety of your intentions … everything will be palpable. Yes… some stories are hard to understand … until you have lived through one.
It's always a choice....
